Creating Your Wedding Ceremony

Introduction

This questionnaire was designed to help you focus your thoughts to create ideas for a meaningful wedding ceremony that speaks from the heart of who you are. These questions are simply a starting point. If you would like to symbolize something in the ceremony, but aren’t sure how, we can work together on that.

Background:

Describe any pertinent events or stories that led to the desire for this wedding ceremony. For example, the story of meeting your fiancé, the evolution of your relationship, how you decided to marry, or any other wonderful story you’d like to celebrate.

What do you want to accomplish with the ceremony? What statement are you making to your family and friends present?

Do you wish to acknowledge the guests for their participation in your lives or relationship at all? If so, what comes to mind that you would like to express?

What is the dream or vision you have for your life together?

What words would you choose to describe your relationship?

What would you say you have done successfully to create this relationship?

What do you each value most about your partner?

In what ways has your relationship grown over time? How would you like it to grow or deepen in your married life?

General ceremony questions—

Do you have any religious or spiritual beliefs or rituals that you would like to incorporate in the ceremony?

Is there any specific significance of the date or location? For example, season, an anniversary, etc. If so, would you like this special meaning explained in the ceremony?

Who will be in your wedding party?

What will you wear? Is there any significance to your attire that you would want explained in the ceremony?

What will you ask your guests to wear? For example, formal, informal, casual, etc.

Will you be including music? What? Where? When? Live or recorded?

Would you like to include any readings, poetry or blessings? If so, do you have pieces that are special to you, or would you like some recommendations? Who will read these?